But… Wasn’t I The Best Manager Ever??

Every week I get the opportunity to evaluate systemic issues; from the micro-culture that is the office environment, to the macro-culture that is our government. Looking for the gaps in human interaction really makes me tick.

With a sufficient knowledge base – an undergraduate degree in communication, a master’s in leadership and organizational communication, and now an in-pursuit doctorate in business leadership, I must be able to walk-the-walk, right?

To answer the question: I most definitely was not the best manager ever.

Self-Assessment & Reflection

If you want to be a leader or manager (find out the leader/manager relationship here), the first step is knowing yourself. It might seem most reasonable to ask a friend what they think about your management capabilities, but that’s not going to cut it. Fortunately, behavioral psychologists and researchers before me have realized self-assessments act as a foundation for changing behavior; and change doesn’t occur without awareness.

In retrospect, revisiting personality or interpersonal leadership style assessments – and truly understanding them – would have proved quite useful before entering management. Here I was thinking I knew myself. In fairness, I was aware of my downfalls, but never took steps to address them… Yeah, that’s a problem.

Let’s see, in 2012 Stratton Consulting identified my interpersonal leadership style as Director, with a correlating perception of flexibility as Rigid. In 2013 the DiSC pinned me in a classic Inspirational Pattern. In 2014 Gallup Strengths-Based Leadership Report coined me as an Executor. And in 2016, Myers-Briggs reiterated my INTJ status. Now without context or experience reading these reports, the aforementioned classifiers aren’t particularly telling.

What I can tell you is I had (and have) blind spots. I’m critical and judgmental. I’m opinionated and persistent. I’m competitive and discontented. And yet, I truly believe people are at the core of functional businesses, and that the purpose of management is to serve their people, not to serve themselves.

It wasn’t until that clicked – until my team’s success meant more to me than my own – that I truly started to change my behavior.

I think of times a team member asked me to review an email or edit a deck. Each and every time I was nitpicky. I have no doubt I drove my team nuts. It was likely cringe worthy!

Did this empower them? No, it showed them that I thought my way was better. If something is flat out wrong, I’m not saying you shouldn’t inquire and help them get to the correct answer (key word help, not enable) but don’t assume your way is the only one. 

Out of all these personality tests, leadership assessments, and the like, there’s one thing I know for sure: any perceived negative attribute I’ve possessed over the years has to do with ego. And the moment we let our egos get in the way, is the moment we lose sight of the value in our human capital.

If you’re like me, you’re hoping I will get to the point here soon. The point is this: self-reflection is a path to leadership development. I encourage you to ask yourself two things:

1. Why do you want to lead?

2. What is the purpose of your leadership?

If the answers are power, money, and prestige, you are at risk for relying on external gratification for fulfillment. I’d be delusional if I said you can’t lead with the desire to serve others, and simultaneously earn influence, prestige, or wealth. But – and this is the big but – be cognizant of underlying motivators.

If there’s an area you’re hoping to improve and you’re looking for literature or some support, you know how to reach me.

For the solo high-performer who wants to remain as such: It’s OK to be a stellar individual contributor and never manage a team. The point here is not to change who you are – it’s to own it and maximize the hell out of it!

Manager Trapdoors: Four Themes to Correct

Individual contributors are a vital part of the organizations for which we work. These individuals are set on a path to achieve. In their success, they are seen as a rising star and are candidates for promotion. Even if the rising star doesn’t know it, their promotion may come with it new, or additional, management responsibilities. But does a high-achiever mean they too are compassionate, respectful, and hold other human leadership attributes? Maybe. But more often than not, no.

This is not to diminish the high-achiever! We need them! And companies should want to reward achievement. The irony? The reward of management responsibility is mismatched with the achievement role, and often sets people up for failure. Pointedly, rewarding high achievers with the responsibility of leading a team is archaic and rooted in traditional work structures dating back to the industrial revolution. (Need an alternative? Let’s discuss.)

If these high-achievers aim to be an exceptional manager and leader, too, then there is great potential. Determining the intent of the individual (e.g., is a life goal to help coach and manage others?) will help direct decision makers in next steps. 

Next steps should consist of coaching for these employees. If they are high performers, help them maintain that level of excellence with the new endeavor of management. When education and coaching does not occur for a new manager, there are four primary themes that result. More simply, these are the traps new managers can fall into without an ample dose of awareness.

Listening
Individual contributors, especially those whom excel, are used to being heard, not hearing. But take note: hearing is different from listening. Listening is an active, engaged, and thoughtful practice. Done well, and listening can tap into core feelings, motivations, and strengthen relationships between team members.

Micromanaging
There’s a reason the high-achiever was promoted. They achieved. They surpassed expectations. They also had a significant amount of influence over their success. One of the biggest challenges for new managers is to control less, and empower more. I’ve seen it time and time again; new managers are concerned about their team’s performance but rather than supporting their team with the tools to achieve on their own, the manager tightens their grip. The belief is only they are capable enough to complete the task well. This attitude is one of the fastest ways to alienate a team.   

Egomania
I call these the “God’s gift to mankind” type. New ideas are seldom heard and team members fear retaliation if they disagree with their boss. As a new manager, the goal should be eagerness to learn and serve.

Feedback
Feedback shouldn’t be left for when there’s a problem. Without training, new managers may find critical feedback is only acceptable during a review. This couldn’t be further from the truth! Consistency and communication are the two attributes leaders and managers must always come back to. Does your employee know how they are doing? Are they given feedback on their performance? Are they recognized for a job well done?  

These themes are rampant – I see each issue in every single client’s place of work. Without addressing them, the crisis of depleting employee engagement then ensues. And, the decrease in employee engagement is a tell-tale sign of a pending departure.

In coming weeks I’ll address tips for acknowledging team members, and the importance in doing so.

Globalization: The Dimensions of Culture in Your Workday

Last week I said I would delve into some elements that contribute to workplace conflict. The root cause is more often than not an absence of communication.  Under that, though, there are cultural elements at play. This makes communication all the more challenging. Social norms and cues are not only interpreted differently, they have wholly different meanings.

To help your empathy levels increase (essential to creating a culture of respect) here are some cultural structures that will serve you well to understand. Keep in mind there will always be scales of these concepts. The more you learn about your team and work environment, the more you can adjust your ability to see there isn’t a “right” and a “wrong.” Sometimes, it’s as “simple” as the fact there are different perspectives of and around the world. Social psychologist Geert Hofstede studied these five cultural dimensions at length.

Individualism vs. Collectivism

Individualism focuses on one’s own interest. The priority lies with the singular person alone. Macro cultures of individualism include the U.S. and Canada. Collectivism, on the other hand, reflect feelings that the group or society should receive top priority. Some societies that follow this notion include Greece and Hong Kong.

Power Distance

Power distance reflect the extent to which members of social system accept the notion that members have varying levels of power. High-power (HP) distance suggests that leaders make decisions simply because they are leaders. HP examples include France, Japan, and Spain. Low-power (LP) distance suggests that social system members do not automatically acknowledge the power of a hierarchy. Examples of LP include Germany, Ireland, and the U.S.

Uncertainty Avoidance

Low uncertainty avoidance is reflected by people who accept the unknown and tolerate risk as well as unconventional behavior(s). Countries with low uncertainty avoidance include Canada, Australia, and U.S. Whereas high uncertainty avoidance is characterized by people who want predictable and certain futures e.g., Israel, Italy, and Japan.  

Masculinity – Femininity

A masculine culture emphasizes assertiveness and the acquisition of money or material objects. It’s also coupled by a de-emphasis on caring for others. Unsurprisingly, when compared to above cultural trends, Italy and Japan fall under the masculine identity. Femininity, however, places high importance upon personal relationships: from concern for others to high quality of life. (You guessed it! Some examples include Sweden, Denmark, and Norway.)

Time Orientation

There are two forms of time orientation: long-term and short-term. Long-term is characterized by a long perspective – you’re focused on the future. You value persistence, perseverance, saving, and being able to adapt. Conversely, short-term is when you are focused on the present or past and consider them more important than the future. Short-term is also characterized by seeing value in immediate gratification - yet importance in tradition and fulfilling social obligations.  

The examples included hereto are to demonstrate the stark differences from nation to nation. While a macro perspective, these nuances and variance among us can be just as distinct, even if two people grow up down the street from one another. Think of someone you work with whom you find yourself at odds with often. Now take these dimensions into account. What did you discover? Understanding how our counterparts view view the world is a just a piece of the communicative puzzle, but it’s a great place to start.

Concepts and terms gathered by Peter G. Northouse: Leadership Theory and Practice.

The Reality of Your Company Culture

Organizational climates vary significantly from company to company and from industry to industry. What used to be appealing to the workforce – such as consistency and stability (from the company) – offered equal value to said company, such as unwavering loyalty (from the workforce). Now, several generations later and beyond the traditionalists and Gen-X-ers, corporations are being asked to adjust to a new wave of normalcy. Millennials are the largest generation yet and are searching for companies with distinct characteristics. These are the characteristics that comprise a corporate culture.

[Note: This is not a bad thing! I get it -- change intimidates: There is a fierce desire to cling to a present reality. However, that does not make us smarter, more innovative, and more competitive. I highly encourage you to embrace new methodologies and to learn from the generation that will be integral to our future composition.]

Culture is broad term – one that we use to define macro-cultures e.g., America; as well as micro-cultures such as a workplace (which is a micro-micro-micro culture). In defining culture, we attempt to attract talent and maintain said talent. Leveraging culture as a recruitment tool is a no brainer. The key, however, is to exude and embody the culture you aspire to possess.

Go into self-reflection mode for a moment. Have you ever interviewed with a company to learn their culture – the values that make the world go ‘round within the company – are in complete alignment with your own? Then, did you also join the team to later learn the idealism of their company culture was far from the reality? Odds are you’ve experienced this mismatch.

Nine out of 10 times, senior leadership thinks their culture is something it is not. And this isn’t necessarily a bad thing. In extracting key issues and clear opportunity, companies are able to recreate who they want to be, or discover they simply have a piece of the puzzle that has been stifled or poorly communicated. From there, company leaders are empowered to make changes. If we go back to the initial point: awareness of company culture is a must to stay competitive. Millennials have optionality and won’t necessarily hang around while you figure it out!

I’d argue that the key here is humility. A foundational and absolutely necessary leadership trait. When company leaders are humble about not knowing everything, there is ample opportunity for improvement, sustained happiness, and decreased turnover.

Next week we will explore some outcomes of cultural assessments (from the thermometer principle). By identifying structural differences in organizations, often stemming from our own world beliefs and macro or micro-cultural influences, we come to understand the probability of conflict. It is then, when we understand the root of (some) conflict, empathy levels increase and we become more aware of what may be transpiring in our own place of work. This yields healthy discourse about the way we see the world and opens the door to resolution.